• Getting Unstuck

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    Questions have power that we don’t begin to see. Think of how your day can go from bright to cloudy when someone simply asks the wrong kind of question, such as, “Do you really like that color?” It seems like a simple enough inquiry but it is loaded with judgment. Such a question can fill you with self-doubt and you can be plagued with a shaky, “What’s wrong with this color?”  Questions often lead to more questions and that can’t help but cause us to think.

    Jesus used questions to challenge and convict as He went about his earthly ministry.

    “And who of you by being worried can add a single hour to his life?” Matt. 6:27

    “Why are you afraid, you men of little faith?” Matt. 8:26

    “What do you want me to do for you?” Matt. 20:32

    “If I tell you about earthly things and you will not believe, how will you believe when I tell you of heavenly things?” John 3:12

    And then there was the question He asked the lame man sitting by the pool of Bethesda, “Do you wish to get well?” (John 5:5-6) He had been sick for thirty-eight years. With the question from Jesus, the man had a choice. He could get well or stay sick. That was where Jesus left it with his question. The answer was totally up to the man. Jesus didn’t ask him, “How did you get here?”  He didn’t ask, “Why haven’t you worked on getting better?”  He just said, “Do you wish to get well?” and at that point, the two of them entered a relationship that was challenging and a little uncomfortable but totally for the sick man’s good.

    The Scriptures tell us “Immediately the man became well, and picked up his pallet and began to walk.” (John 5:9) The man was healed but what if he had not followed through? He never would have known it! He wouldn’t have tried something so unfamiliar and so seemingly impossible—walking!

    What are you waiting for? It doesn’t matter why you are in your place of ‘stuckness’. What matters is your willingness to take your first step away from that place. It begins with answering some question. Do you want to get unstuck? Are you willing to take the first step away from this place? What would it look like if you weren’t stuck here? Are you courageous enough to move on?

    Think about it.


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    4 Responses to “Getting Unstuck”

    1. Very timely and encouraging post, Jan. Lord, give us courage! :)

    2. I feel like getting unstuck is a process. I’ve taken several small steps towards moving in a different direction yet I find myself questioning my decision to leave. Even though I am confident I have not made a hasty decision-many years of many counselors, several Christian books, constant submersion in the word and endless prayers seeking God’s will, the judgement and shunning by my immediate family and my extended family can be debilitating. It adds a whole other layer of muck and mire on top of all that I am experiencing from having been married to an abusive /addict husband and now experiencing a devastating divorce (he’s trying to take the kids from me ).

      I have definitely taken steps in a new direction but each and every day I must stay as closeto Jesus as I can to avoid being distracted by my circumstances and the daily shunning by my children. I am trying to keep my focus on He who strengthens me and I am comforted by the bible verse “For I know the plans I have for you declares the Lord, plans to prosper you and not to harm you, plans to give you hope and a future” Jeremiah 29:11.

    3. Oh, Jorie,

      I’m sorry it’s so hard. It seems as if the damage from addiction/abuse never ends.
      The new journey is usually not easy but going in a different direction removes you
      fromthe toxicity. You are wise to stay close to Jesus through His Word.
      He is your Rock and your Place.
      You will get better. It will take time! Pray for and love your children even though
      they don’t understand and blame you. Only God can heal the broken places in your
      family butsomeone has to be strong and courageous and say, “No more!”

      I pray for your heart.


    4. Jan,
      I have read some of your books, heard you at Women of Faith, and have listened to one of your books on cd over and over again. Your wisdom is such a gift from God! Thanks for sharing your gift!

Quotes I Like

“Life passes like a flash of lightning, whose blaze barely lasts long enough to see. While the earth and the sky stand still forever, how swiftly changing time flies across man’s face. Oh you who sit over your full cup and do not drink…tell me for whom are you still waiting?” - Hermann Hesse


“What might have been does not exist, so don’t even go there.” Jan Silvious


“Those who hear not the music think the dancers mad.” Anonymous


“When life hands you a lemon, say, “O, yeah, I like lemons. What else you got?” Henry Rollins


“Friendship is born at that moment when one person says to another: "What! You too? I thought I was the only one.” C.S. Lewis